A Private Life Is A Happy Life - 5 Reasons to Keep Your Life Private (2022)

A private life is a happy life. Seriously. The older I get, the more I’m able to appreciate the value of privacy, without the associated guilt I used to feel about implementing it.

A private life is a happy life because as the respect that you have for your own privacy increases, the drama, bad luck, and bullsh*t in your life instantly decreases.

Here’s what I wish I could have told my younger, way too overzealous and oversharing self:

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  • Nothing good will ever come out of everyone knowing your business. Nothing.
  • Keep it low key. Your power lies in retaining an element of mystery. When you have a lack of self-esteem, boundaries, and give too much of yourself away, you allow others to feel like they can define you and once they do, it’s hard to feel like you can ever deviate from that definition. Guess what? You can’t be defined. Even though you may feel stagnant right now, you’re not biologically wired for stagnation. You’re wired for evolution. Making the decision to acknowledge, recognize, and laser-focus on your own evolution is what’s going to attract the right lovers and friends into your life.
  • Stop treating everyone (especially people that you don’t even know), like you owe them something. The only reason that you do this is because you’ve subscribed to the belief that you’re not enough, so you attempt to compensate as a means of emotional survival. Your childhood experiences implemented and programmed this mentality, but that doesn’t mean that you have to continue being chief of the opposition and carry out that mission/mentality until emotional warfare is a way of life. You are more than enough, just as you are. You don’t need to give everyone the privilege of knowing every little detail about you. And until you view it as just that – a privilege – no one else ever will.
  • “Just because it’s not posted on social media, doesn’t mean it’s not happening.” Start aspiring to LIVE the life that you waste so much time uploading, filtering, and trying to portray on social media.

Stay on your white horse and in your own lane. Stop being a supporting character in the story of YOUR life. Be a dynamic character of action who’s too busy making sh*t happen, than to waste her time talking about the sh*t that already did/is about to.

Do you want to know what’s REALLY attractive?

A woman who retains a sense of mystery. She doesn’t engage in gossip, quietly progresses, and does her thing without the need for an audience.

I used to be one of those people that shared everything with anyone who was willing to listen. Everyone knew “my story” and the drama associated with it. It soon got to a point where the level to which I’d divulge would be so embarrassingly disproportionate to the relationship I had with the person I was talking to, I got embarrassed.

If there was any little speck of drama – a new issue, something to gossip about, heartbreak, or a new accomplishment, I’d be dropping enticing “hints” to anyone with a set of ears. I would enthusiastically plant those seeds of “hints,” hoping that the other person would ask me something… anything so that I could unload from a vault that was meant to be exclusively for MY personal access – not the general public’s.

Why did I do this?

I had un-dealt with trauma. I was lonely and I felt inadequate. I was situationally depressed and because of that, I let fear dictate my actions (which ultimately, lead to anger because I had no respect for the backbone-less adult I had become). I was living in a self-imposed, emotional jail; completely starving for any little crumb of connection. I just wanted someone to WANT to listen to me and know my story.

Whenever I divulged personal details or gossip to anyone, I felt like I was connecting… just for a moment. And I convinced myself that the pseudo connection was worth the consequences I was sure would never reach me. It was the cheapest kind of connection I’ve ever engaged in.

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And the problem with a cheap connection is that you’re basically having unprotected emotional sex. I was divulging information without first, making sure that there was a solid foundation of trust, respect, and love.

A private life is a happy life.

Here’s how I found a way to keep my private life private (without having to feel like I was being inauthentic, closed off and “holding back”) + 5 benefits of maintaining a private life…

I share so much of my life and myself (which are far from perfect) here on the blog, but as far as every little detail and the ups and downs of my everyday personal life goes, I don’t need to go there. I’m very protective of who I’m dating, my family, and my friends. It doesn’t mean that I’ll never post photos of them on social media or that I’ll deny their existence and never speak of them. It just means that I value their privacy because I value and respect my own. Their stories aren’t my stories to tell and they didn’t ask to be a part of this narrative.

And so, because I do share so much about myself, there are elements of my life that I hold that much closer to my heart and that I feel that much more protective of.

I’ve found a way to do this though, without feeling closed off, inauthentic, or like I’m holding back with you guys in any way. I always keep it real and for a long time, didn’t think that being so open could coincide with being such a private person. I couldn’t have been more wrong. I’m actually able to share so much (and feel great about it) because now there’s a balance.

I don’t feel like sharing who I am and what I’ve experienced is costing me in any way; I’m not engaging in any level of self-betrayal. There is now that balance of knowing there are elements that I keep to myself.

I didn’t start a blog to air out dirty laundry (of myself or others), in the name of a tell-all confessional. I created it to make people feel less alone and provide answers to painful ambiguity.

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I want to end suffering for every person that I can because I’ve been there and I know how bad it can be.

I want to to help people realize that their healing and ability to bounce back is in their own hands – never anyone else’s.

The older I get, the more I value my privacy and the less inclined I feel to post every damn thing on social media. When I’m in those moments that I would have normally wanted to post, I’m usually too busy ENJOYING myself to take more than a few photos, let alone filter, edit and upload.

Living a private life doesn’t mean that you never let anyone know whats going on in your life and bottle everything in. I consider myself a private person, but I share way more than most.

It’s about having your self-esteem and boundaries intact.

It’s about being SMARTER about what you share.

When your self-esteem is intact, there’s abundance. You can better assess what you want to share and what you want to keep private because you’re no longer acting from a place of desperation and lack. You are then, able to stop engaging in gossip because it no longer serves you.

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Once you accept that there’s not a seat for everyone at the table of your private life, the relationships you have with those who are actually AT the table (number one being YOU), immediately deepen.

No matter who you meet in this world, the ONLY person that will ever know EVERY detail of EVERY one of your secrets is YOU.

How cool is that?

Some of the best experiences I have ever had are the ones that I didn’t feel the need to share. Conversely, there’s A LOT that I do share (and upload), but as far as the details of all of the ups and downs… my advice?

Be a book that’s authentically and genuinely open, but always keep them guessing.

“Very private people have mastered the art of telling you little about themselves but doing it in such a way, you think you know a lot.” – Unknown

Here are the 5 reasons why a private life is a happy life

  1. A private life is a happy life because when you value your privacy, you’re no longer a sitting duck for other people’s gossip. Although we can’t stop or ever fully avoid being exposed to gossip, we can choose to no longer engage in it.
  2. A private life is a happy life because it diminishes drama. And who needs more of that? The most insecure people always have drama going on. They can’t respect other people’s privacy because they can’t respect their own.
  3. A private life is a happy life because when you know what to keep to yourself, you no longer block your ability to accept, move on, and make decisions for yourself. This builds unbelievable trust and respect because you are affirming to yourself that you don’t need the open ears, time, advice, or connection from anyone other than yourself first.
  4. A private life is a happy life because it enriches the most important relationship that you will ever have – the one you have with yourself. It also translates to the world that because you have trust within, you’re a trustworthy person.
  5. A private life is a happy life because it allows you to run out of f*cks to give, connect with people on a deeper level, and become a magnet for mutual relationships. Having boundaries makes you a magnet for mutual and healthy relationships with connected people who are capable of love, honesty, respect, and loyalty. Being a private person also slays paranoia. You’re no longer worried about who knows what story. You finally get to LIVE and stop fabricating connections in the name of self-completion.

The moment you face your fears and take the time to truly understand, process, validate, and listen to YOUR personal details is the moment that you won’t need the entire world to do so any longer.

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And if you ever want to share your story like I have shared and will continue to share mine, you’ll no longer worry about what anyone thinks because you know that you’re doing it on YOUR terms.

x Natasha

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FAQs

Why is it important to keep your life private? ›

Keeping your life private allows you to maintain boundaries and prohibit people from meddling in your business or giving you unsolicited advice. You won't owe anyone any explanation and you won't feel pressured to prove anything to them.

How do I make my private life private? ›

How to Keep Your Private Life Private
  1. Resist the Urge to “Share” on Facebook. Stop! ...
  2. Stay Behind the Cameras. ...
  3. Say “No” to TMI Tweets. ...
  4. Talk, Don't Text. ...
  5. Don't Ever Kiss and Tell at Work. ...
  6. Pick Your Partners Wisely. ...
  7. Pick Your Confidants Carefully. ...
  8. Skimp On the Details.
28 Oct 2020

Is it good to be private person? ›

Better friendships and relationships. And lastly, being a private person will dramatically increase your chances of finding and being surrounded by those you can truly connect with, rather than having a thousand friends who can barely remember your name. It takes time to get to know people.

What do you mean by private life? ›

Noun. private life (plural private lives) The aspects of one's life that are personal, such as family, friends and other personal relationships, as opposed to the elements that make up one's public or professional life.

What makes a private person? ›

What is a Private Person Like? Someone with a private personality is very often an introvert with a strong desire for, well, privacy. They don't share their personal world with anyone but those who've earned a place in their inner circle.

Why are some people private? ›

The privacy works to their personal defense and advantage. Meaning, they say they are private as a warning to others to not ask any personal questions or delve into their inner thoughts or space. The main reason they say this is because they don't want to be found out. They don't want to be discovered.

What does a private person mean? ›

If you describe someone as a private person, you mean that they are very quiet by nature and do not reveal their thoughts and feelings to other people. Gould was an intensely private individual. Synonyms: solitary, reserved, retiring, withdrawn More Synonyms of private.

What does a private relationship mean? ›

A private relationship is when others know YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP, outsiders know not to overstep their boundaries, and all your ups and downs are dealt with in private.

Which is a characteristic of private relationship? ›

Answer: The characteristic of private relationships (in comparison to public relationships) is (b). Use of particularistic knowledge. Explanation: The private relationship is usually the informal one where the comfort level lies high sometimes on peak.

How can I be a better person? ›

15 Ways to Become a Better Person
  1. Compliment Yourself. Every morning before you go on with your daily routine, take a couple of minutes to give yourself a compliment. ...
  2. Don't Make Excuses. ...
  3. Let Go of Anger. ...
  4. Practice Forgiveness. ...
  5. Be Honest and Direct. ...
  6. Be Helpful. ...
  7. Listen to Others. ...
  8. Act Locally.
9 Dec 2014

What should be difference between personal life and public life? ›

They are different. Private life is known to you and few people close to you, Public life is known to many people. Generally we don't want our private life known to many people. Our private life has a certain influence on our public life.

What are examples of private life? ›

Private life means, for example, conducting a hobby or tending to family matters. All other employment, commissions or commitment that employees have or fulfil either with a different employer or principal, or through self- employment, is thus to be considered as incidental employment.

What is the example of private? ›

Examples of private in a Sentence

Please keep all my personal information private. He's a very private person.

What is private and family life? ›

What is meant by private life? You have the right to live your life privately without government interference. The courts have interpreted the concept of 'private life' very broadly. It covers things like your right to determine your sexual orientation, your lifestyle, and the way you look and dress.

Is it OK to live a private life? ›

A private life is a happy life because it enriches the most important relationship that you will ever have – the one you have with yourself. It also translates to the world that because you have trust within, you're a trustworthy person.

What does it mean when a guy says he's a private person? ›

If you describe someone as a private person, you mean that they are very quiet by nature and do not reveal their thoughts and feelings to other people. She has always been a rather private person.

What is a closed off person? ›

What is a closed-off person? A closed-off person is someone who probably doesn't want to open up about his or her feelings. They might not feel comfortable sharing personal information or letting others into their world. A closed-off person usually has one main aim — to avoid a strong emotional connection with others.

Who is a reserved person? ›

Someone who is reserved may be described as calm and collected. This means that they do not get concerned about things which others may find stressful. They are not likely to get angry and will rarely have arguments or get aggressive.

What does a private American mean? ›

a citizen who does not hold any official or public position.

What is a private citizen in the United States? ›

The dictionary definition of “private citizen” reinforces this view: a person is a private citizen if he or she does not hold a public. office and is not engaged in public employment.

How do you completely change yourself? ›

7 Steps to Transforming Yourself From Who You Are to Who You Want...
  1. See yourself outside yourself. ...
  2. Find the habit associated with the thing you want to change. ...
  3. Practice every day, no matter what. ...
  4. Set realistic goals. ...
  5. Constantly look in the mirror. ...
  6. Surround yourself with people who will tell you the truth.
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How do I give myself attention? ›

How to Focus on Yourself — and Only Yourself
  1. Get acquanited.
  2. Focus on what you want.
  3. Make a self-care plan.
  4. Practice self-compassion.
  5. Do things you love.
  6. Avoid comparisons.
  7. Examine your values.
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How do you start to keep yourself? ›

11 Foolproof Ways That Will Help You Keep Secrets To Yourself
  1. Never document it.
  2. Pretend it never happened.
  3. It helps if you are forgetful.
  4. Keeping secrets makes you mysterious.
  5. Change the topic if necessary.
  6. Sometimes you will have to lie.
  7. Tell it to your pet.
  8. Bury it.
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What are the 3 types of relationship? ›

What are the 3 types of relationships? There are three types of relationships, and each influences how we love each other and ourselves: traditional relationships, conscious relationships, and transcendent relationships. Each kind of love is specific to the people within them. That is, each serves its own purpose.

Is it OK to keep your relationship private? ›

Keeping your relationship private is a personal decision that needs to be mutual. But no matter what you and your partner share or don't share, the only thing that matters is that you both genuinely value each other more than the opinions of other people.

How important is privacy in a relationship? ›

It builds trust. Privacy builds trust in a relationship. When you share personal information with someone, you trust that they will not share it with others or use it against you. If you feel like your privacy is being violated, it can damage that trust and cause resentment to build.

What's the difference between private and secret? ›

"Secrecy is the act of hiding information. Privacy is about being unobserved — being able to have my own experience of life without the eyes of anyone else on me." Regarding privacy, U.S. Justice Louis Brandeis famously described it as "the right to be left alone."

How does a private relationship work? ›

Being private about your relationship means that although you are not excessively loud and or annoying with it all the time, you are still unequivocally truthful about being in one. However, that's all you let people know.

What is important in a relationship? ›

Both parties need to respect each other's feelings and boundaries. You need to value and take care of each other in every way you can. When you respect and love one another, you'll have a beautiful relationship. This foundation of trust and security is essential and will lead to wonderful things.

How do you love your self? ›

8 Ways to Embrace Self-Love and Thank Your Body
  1. Meditation. Meditation is a beautiful way to center yourself. ...
  2. Mindful movement. Moving your body in a mindful way is much different than exercising or working out. ...
  3. A good read. ...
  4. Surround yourself with joy. ...
  5. Ask for help. ...
  6. Find your place of bliss. ...
  7. Slow down. ...
  8. Mirror work.

What is a good person? ›

Definition of good people

US, informal + old-fashioned. : an honest, helpful, or morally good person I like him; he's good people.

What is the difference between personal life and private life? ›

Private life could be talking about aspects of her life that very few or no one else knows about. A person's private life would include thoughts, habits, and activities that almost no one else knows about. Personal life could be something that many more people would be aware of.

Why is it important to separate your private life with your work life? ›

Setting boundaries to separate your work and personal life not only increases efficiency at work, but it also reduces stress in your personal life. Both of these mean more relaxation and less burnout. And for employers, it means a reduced turnover rate while building a reputation as a great place to work.

What is different between private and personal? ›

Personal: Belonging to a particular person rather than anyone else. Private: Belonging to one particular person or group of people only. "Private" can apply to either a group or an individual.

What is your public life? ›

public life (uncountable) The aspects of social life which occur in public, in the open, as opposed to more private social interaction within families, private clubs, etc.

What is the difference between civil life and private life? ›

Private Life: Relates to a citizen's right to privacy and the pursuit of private and personal interests. Civic Life: The public life of the citizen concerned with the affairs of the community and nation.

What do you mean by social life? ›

Definition of social life

: the part of a person's time spent doing enjoyable things with others I joined the club to improve my social life. She has a busy/hectic social life.

What makes a private good unique? ›

A private good is not shared with anybody else, but can be sold along with transferring rights to use or consume it. Private goods are different from public goods, which are available to everyone regardless of income levels.

What is the difference between public and private? ›

Public sector organisations are owned, controlled and managed by the government or other state-run bodies. Private sector organisations are owned, controlled and managed by individuals, groups or business entities.

What is this word privately? ›

privately adverb (PERSONAL)

in secret, or with only one or two other people present: She spoke privately with the manager. Despite his public support, privately (= secretly) he was worried. More examples. I'd prefer it if we could speak privately.

What type of right is right to privacy? ›

The right to privacy is the right to individual autonomy that is violated when states interfere with, penalise, or prohibit actions that essentially only concern the individual, such as not wearing safety equipment at work or committing suicide.

What are the 5 key principles in the Human Rights Act? ›

These basic rights are based on shared values like dignity, fairness, equality, respect and independence. These values are defined and protected by law.

What should be difference between personal life and public life? ›

They are different. Private life is known to you and few people close to you, Public life is known to many people. Generally we don't want our private life known to many people. Our private life has a certain influence on our public life.

How do you live secretly? ›

5 Ways To Keep Your Personal Life Private
  1. Be Boring. If you don't want people to know what's going on in your life, bore them to death. ...
  2. Don't Overshare. ...
  3. Unplug. ...
  4. Know Your Limits. ...
  5. Save Some Secrets For Yourself.
17 Aug 2015

What does it mean when a guy says he's a private person? ›

If you describe someone as a private person, you mean that they are very quiet by nature and do not reveal their thoughts and feelings to other people. She has always been a rather private person.

How can I live a simple life? ›

6 Ways to Live a Simple Life
  1. Become aware of what's most important to you.
  2. Invest your time in meaningful things.
  3. Give your energy to things that actually matter.
  4. Differentiate facts from hypothesis.
  5. Leave space to do nothing.
  6. Practice gratitude for every little blessing.

What is the difference between personal life and private life? ›

Private life could be talking about aspects of her life that very few or no one else knows about. A person's private life would include thoughts, habits, and activities that almost no one else knows about. Personal life could be something that many more people would be aware of.

Why is it important to separate your private life with your work life? ›

Setting boundaries to separate your work and personal life not only increases efficiency at work, but it also reduces stress in your personal life. Both of these mean more relaxation and less burnout. And for employers, it means a reduced turnover rate while building a reputation as a great place to work.

What is different between private and personal? ›

Personal: Belonging to a particular person rather than anyone else. Private: Belonging to one particular person or group of people only. "Private" can apply to either a group or an individual.

What is secret of life? ›

The Secret of Life reveals the lens through which all decisions can be made for the fullest life expression and experience! By combining ancient wisdom with modern science, we now can design a life which supports our design, our energy, our health and our life experience!

How can I live a better life? ›

Follow these seven tips to increase your energy and live a happier, healthier, more productive life:
  1. Eat nourishing food. ...
  2. Sleep seven to eight hours per night. ...
  3. Keep company with good people. ...
  4. Avoid news overdose. ...
  5. Get regular exercise. ...
  6. Do something meaningful each day.
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How do I live an awesome life? ›

Simple Steps to Create Your Awesome Life
  1. Decide what you want. Stop focusing on what's wrong with your life. ...
  2. Decide that you can have it. ...
  3. Know that you're the only one that's going to make it happen and you're the only one who can get in your way. ...
  4. Do something different. ...
  5. Be grateful for all that's great in your life.

What is a private person called? ›

2 exclusive, individual, intimate, own, particular, personal, reserved, special. 3 independent, nonpublic. 4 concealed, isolated, not overlooked, retired, secluded, secret, separate, sequestered, solitary, withdrawn.

Why do men hide relationships? ›

When someone hides their relationship, often it's because they want to appear available in the dating pool. Now it can be specifically for one person he is still not over or because he likes the attention from opposite sex.

Is it OK to be private in a relationship? ›

It is perfectly OK if a private relationship or marriage is what you want. But just be sure that you are keeping a private relationship and not a secret relationship because there's actually a difference. In fact, some people who keep their relationships secret think they are just being private about it.

What is simplicity in life? ›

What Is Simplicity in Life? Simplicity in life is a state of mind where simplicity has been achieved. Living a simple life does not mean living an impoverished one, though it may seem like that to some at first. It rather means appreciating the little things in life more than the material things.

What is an easy life? ›

3 adj If you say that someone has an easy life, you mean that they live comfortably without any problems or worries. usu ADJ n (Antonym: hard) She has not had an easy life.

How can I live a relaxed life? ›

10 Ways to De-Stress Your Life
  1. Let your supports challenge you. ...
  2. Count your blessings. ...
  3. Don't assume others' motives. ...
  4. Know your priorities. ...
  5. Pick your battles. ...
  6. Take breaks. ...
  7. Make time for the little things. ...
  8. Take one task at a time.

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